How should I break up with my girlfriend?

I have been dating her for over a year. I'm 27 and she's 25, but she is incredibly childish and selfish, and I can't deal with it anymore. My main concern is that she has really bad anxiety/depression issues, and I'm concerned that this is going to have a huge impact on her. I do care about her, but I literally have to do everything for her, from picking her up every time we go out, to making her pizza at 3 A. M. when she's drunk, to getting her a glass of water which is ten feet away. She won't do anything herself, she just whines until I do it. She's incredibly needy and selfish, but I don't want to hurt her.How should I break up with my girlfriend?
That sucks, why did you date her for this long. I dunno what to tell you coz it would suck for her. Did you tell her that all these things she does bother you. Reason I ask is that, if you suddenly just tell her you are breaking up with her and she is oblivious to the fact that she is annoying and childish she would be in shock!


Then it would seem like you never gave her a chance to correct herself.





Honestly there is no good way to break up with someone and people are going to be upset and depressed but it is something she needs to deal with. You really can't do anything but if you know her friends may be you can keep in touch with her best friend to make sure she is doing ok.





Don't be with the girl coz you feel bad for her. Thats my advice :)


In your scenario, I'd say sucks to be her and sucks to be you but oh well relationships are not forever some are doomed to fail and some are meant to last forever.How should I break up with my girlfriend?
Be honest, but gentle. Tell her you feel she has become unhealthily dependent and you feel she needs to develop some self-reliance and independence. Or, you could say you've grown apart/want different things. A no-blame reason is best, preferably one she can't argue with. Her anxiety/depression is not your responsibility and she needs to get treatment. Maybe you could speak to a close friend of hers so they are ready to offer her support?
maybe the best way is to tell her the truth that wouldnt hurt her as bad as lying
have sex with another woman in her bed. it works everytime. Act like you are real sorry and tell her you couldn't help it. She will still break up with you but she is the one breaking up not you.
just say go away i want to break up with you u childish girl.........she made u hurt didnt she? u ARE not her slave boyfriend...why not find a nice gal in ur age..u said u cant deal with her just say ';im dumping u';
Some people confuse panic anxiety disorder with selfishness. It really isn't the same thing. If you cannot deal with the chemical imbalance that she has, I suggest you tell her right away so that she can find someone who will love her unconditionally, with all of her flaws.
Even though she has depression issues, all you can do is break up as gently but as firmly as you could. She holds her future in her own hands and needs to begin to deal with life. You are supposed to be her bf not the literal knight in shining armour.





Do not feel guilty for doing what's best for you. It makes no sense to stay with someone who is only taking from you because one day you will have no more to give someone else or even yourself.





A relationship is supposed to be two ppl who are giving to each other. One being strong in time when the other is weak. I am sure in your 'weak' moments you are alone, then what is her purpose in your life???





I know it is harsh but it is true. Just be gentle, let her know why, so that maybe she can change eventually. But do it, do not be taken in by false promises.
the trick is to make her think it is her Idea, do things like forget to call and don't have sex with her anymore, be a big pain in the *** so she breaks up with you
Just be firm with her.
She is manipulating you, and she's good at it. There is nothing you can do to make this easy. Just do it. But if your gonna do it. You need to walk away completely, no matter what she pulls. No contact. Good luck with that.
How did you manage to last this long? Be gentle and honest! Good luck!
wow


sounds like a little kid syndrome


is she the youngest in her family


wow she seems like she needs attention


i dealt with that before


and its hard to break away


but in due time u will realize she s not for u


cuz its not fair for u too pamper and be there for her every needs when she could simply do it herself





i suggest for u to talk about your situation


explain to her how u feel and how da the relationship is





if u she doesnt show progress then its time to leave and for her to watch
She's controlling you and you're right about wanting to get out of it. If she gets depressed about it then you should tell her parents so that they can help her through it. Break it to her gently, and don't bother to say anything about her being a selfish brat, that will just aggravate the situation. (I would suggest going to her parents first to tell them before she has the chance to bad mouth you) Good luck!
Do it easy, tell her that you just don't think that you guys are going any were, that you would like to be friends still(say it even if you don't want to be) its just not workin out. Don't point out any flaws that she has it will hurt her even more.
be with her and hope that one day she realizes u
If you love her, maybe you should talk about what bothers you; maybe she doesn't realize what she does.





If you've already done that, or you don't think there is any chance. If you're not in love, and the relationship isn't working; be honest and let her know that. Unfortunately, no matter what you say, its going to hurt her, and probably you a little bit. Just be kind, say everything without malice, and let go. You will find the perfect fishy that won't ***** and complain!
If you really want to end things with her you'll have to be firm - if she has problems with anxiety and depression she might use them against you to try and keep you. You have your own life to live and shouldn't have to do everything for her, relationships are about giving as well as taking. I know you don't want to hurt her but if you want to get on with your own life you're gonna have to! Good luck with it all anyway! :-)
I think you should tell her that you think it's time for you to move on but tell her that your still gonna be her friend. You dont really have to be her good friend just someone who is there to say hey im here if you wanna talk. Since she has the whole depression thing goin on. Dont worry about hurting her...she has to get over it sometime....it'll all work out tho...i promise.......it has to...Good luck............
Just dump her... She should learn to grow-up!!!
Tell her just the way you feel!! Honesty is always the policy, and sometimes the truth hurts!! But, you will feel much better about yourself!!
Ask yourself this question: If you really care about this person, what is the best solution to this problem. The answer is this: Tell her that she needs to grow up and be an adult, not a child AND Be truthfully.





As for the relationship, it takes two to make a relationship work and all relationship is build on respect, trust and communication!





Good Luck!
well have you tried talking to her about her attitude, if that doesn't work then start doing less things for her but don't be a jerk either and do nothing if she doesn't get the idea then dump her gently
get on with your life ! you are on the verge of having';WELCOME'; tattooed on your chest
You shouldn't stay with someone just because you're worried about how she'll react... remember, she was fine BEFORE you and she'll be okay afterwards. Honestly, can you even see yourself marrying this girl?





Yeah, that's what I thought.





Just dump her already and if it makes it easier, make her hate you by sleeping around or something... sure, it's not right to be a man whore, but it's not right to be with this chick either.
If you guys are not living together, just stop coming by, and let her know. If you are living together, as much as it hurt pack your stuff and have your key to your new place in hand, then tell her that you are leaving have a nice life. You only put up with behavior that you allow into your life. Its too short find someone that is more compatible with you. Regardless of what you do or say she will be hurt, tht is all apart of life hard knocks.
You have to wake her up complete! make her realize how much she is very silly. It will work if she woke up and realize how much she made a lot of mistakes, who knows shes the one after you make her from blind herself.
start taking in charge even tho men should run after gals LOL!!!! she is probely used to this runnin after er aint she!!!! so start sayin no stand up man enjoy life babe x x x x x
I would tell her next time it happens, ';This is the last time I am doing this for you. If you don't start taking care of yourself I am through.'; You might want to look in to the psychological term ';Learned Helplessness';.





Good luck.