How do you get a possibly suicidal girlfriend to break up with you?

I have been with this one girl for a couple years now. We are engaged too. I care about her a lot but I am just not feeling right in the relationship anymore. She is prone to depression and can't seem to control her emotions. She also complains a lot and seems to care mainly about her problems than mine. But she is a sweet girl and I do care about her. But some time ago I have met another girl that is amazing, she is kind, caring, sweet, she doesn't do anything mean to me and has told me many times that she never wants to hurt me (emotionally that is). I am really falling for her more than the first girl. I tried to get her to break up with me by being less loving seeming, but she started getting suicidal saying she will kill herself if she can't have me. I thought she left me, but she now is happier again and thinks everything is fine. So anyway, I really want to be with the second girl, how can I get the first to break up with me without her killing herself?





Serious answers only!!How do you get a possibly suicidal girlfriend to break up with you?
I think you need to tell the second girl. Have her help you out because she may be able to talk to her. Or you can get in touch with one of the girl's friends and explain to her what's going on so she can help out her friend. As for you, you definitely need to get out of that relationship because the suicidal girl is using your emotions to make you stay because she is insecure herself. I hope my suggestions help.How do you get a possibly suicidal girlfriend to break up with you?
There are two words for what your girlfriend is doing to you.


Control and manipulation.


You cannot control what she will or will not do. And you should not live your life to placate someone else. You will only become resentful and bitter.


Break up with her. Sweetly, gently, tell her you will always be friends but you don't want to continue being her romantic partner.


If she threatens suicide again, tell her you hope she won't because she a good person but that you can't stop her if she really wants to.





I bet you $100 that she won't do a damn thing except call your cell every hour for the next two weeks.
sometimes us girls will pull the stupid ';i need you, if i dont have u, i will kill myself'; it isnt serious, if it worries you, you should maybe help her get help, but the other girl seems to be the one you should be with.


hope all goes well.
First of all, you must remember that God did not put you on earth to make others happy. Happiness is an individual responsibility. Secondly, you should not stay with someone just because you feel bad or are concerned about how she will react. Thirdly, you have put yourself in a really sticky situation by being engaged to her and finding another girl. You need to be honest with EVERYONE, including yourself. If you want out, sit your GF down and tell her that you love her, but you are not in love with her. She is going to be emotional, maybe even distraught. You may want to let her parents or friends know so that she can get the support she needs.





It is going to be bad at first, but in the end, everyone will be happier. Good luck!
You need to be honest with the girl, but be nice and tell her that there are more guys out there that will want to be with her. You can't stay with her just because of this. She doesn't own you and you don't owe her anything. Just let her down easy, and expect her to take it as an adult.
Do something that she doesn't like. If it is her who decides to end the relationship, it will work out.





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I'm not trying to be cruel, this is obviously one relationship which will not work. You just have to do something against her principles, not necessarily something that would hurt her.
This is tough to answer. Try to find your first girl someone that she would care more then you.
first you need to get over the need for her to need you so bad and also realize she is controlling you with this behavior. she knows your stepping out on her and this is her way of keeping you under her thumb. if she was serious about killing herself, she would have done it with or without you being with her. i say, go with what makes you happiest and you can't go wrong. you'll never be able to control her, only your reaction to her, and honey- your giving her all the power. if she is seeing a psychiatrist for her depression- call him or her and set up a little chit chat, just the two of you. tell the psychiatrist what your going through and they'll probably tell you the same thing- she's manipulating you and your letting her get away with it.
Okay, this is very hard but you will have to make a decision.





I'm sure you are very concerned about your first girl, but she needs help. She is making you feel guilty but you are being an enabler. She needs professional help, and you are not licensed to do that. If she is suicidal (as you say she is), and you care about her, then go to her parents, her minister, a counselor, or someone that can get the help she needs.





Sometimes people say things like that because they want your attention. Maybe she knows that you are seeing someone else. If she does, you need to be very careful that she doesn't find out. I'm not trying to frighten you but she could come and hurt you and your new girl. And what a tragedy that would be. She's calling out for help. And my question is ';why are you engaged if you're seeing someone else?'; You need to let someone go. Don't be selfish. You can't save the world. I know this sounds harsh, but you need to do something before things comes to a head, and that could be tragic.





Sometimes people say that will commit suicide as a ploy to hold on to someone. YOU NEED TO GET SOME SERIOUS PROFESSIONAL HELP NOW! Or you can sit your first girl down and tell her that you love her but you are concerned about how she is feeling. If she loves you like she says she does, then she will be willing to get the help she needs. Don't beat yourself up trying to figure out what to do. Just do something NOW!





If something should happen you don't want to carry around the guilt that you could have done something for her. I don't know your age, but I can tell you that life is too short to be with someone that you don't love. Don't make your life miserable too. It's not worth it. I know I sound as though I'm be tough, but sometimes ';TOUGH LOVE'; is what's needed.





If you have parents, speak to them and see if they know someone that can help you and your girl. You should not be in another relationship right now. You haven't cleaned up your old one, and it's called a rebound relationship. Don't take your old feelings and feed them on someone else until you have clean hands from the old one.





Think about it and do the right thing. If this ';new girl'; likes you, she'll be around when the smoke clears.





Good luck. Hope this helps.