Ok, this is definitely a question that I understand.
I have much experience with cutting...and though I dont appreciate the bad things people are saying about it, I wont get into that subject. People dont usually udnerstand what they havent experienced, right?
Your girlfriend can threaten you all she wants. With or without you, she will be a cutter. You need to have a talk with her and tell her that you want to break up. If she threatens to cut herself, tell her that you're sorry SHE is deciding to do that. It is ultimately her decision. She can think that you are provoking it but it is up to her. That is something I realized when I went through that. No one ';makes'; a person cut. She's not doing it because of you, she's doing it because she is hurt...and if she's cutting without you breaking up with her, she was hurt long before you.
I got help...and one thing is for sure, she needs it. But you cannot force a person to change. Force is soemtiems the worst thing you can do. So treat her well but break up with her. Life will go on eventually for the both of you.
Good luck...and good luck to her. What a horrible thing to go through.How do I break up with my Girlfriend who is a cutter?
Good luck to you...and your welcome. =)
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You have to get a backbone and break up with her, same as you'd dump anyone else.
Just remain calm and don't get it into an argument. Keep making your point over and over again. If she threatens to cut herself in an effort to control and blackmail you, say that you are not responsible for her actions, and that it is her choice to cut herself. Give her the number of a helpline, and then get out. Refuse all contact with her in the future, becuse this girl really sounds like trouble.
Don't say anything to her, but try to hang out with her less and less. Make her break up with you so she won't cut herself. I think she needs professional help though.
do it don't take the pain it will never stop she will be /or is under a hospital let them deal with it they cant face pain they cut themselves to over ride other pains it is nothing to do with you mate walk away there is problems deep down leave it to the experts you will never get any peace so best to do it now good luck Dave
You could gather up some courage to tell someone, like her parent, or a good friend of hers that she needs help, and you cant carry this burden for her anymore. But, if you can't see yourself doing that or don't want to get her into any troubles, you could always just sit down with her, let her know that you won't be manipulated by her threats to cut herself any longer. Many girls know exactly how to control people very well, without you even knowing it. She may just be using empty threats or sees cutting as a ';Get out of jail Free card'; whenever you begin to talk about something she doesn't want to hear. (Although she may be cutting herself, or threating to, if at any time you truly believe she is going to try to kill herself get help immediately, no matter what the consequences!) Either way, you've got to grow a ';back bone'; and say something, otherwise nothing will ever change.
Slap some sense into that biznotch and break up with her. If she slices herself open, well that's just too bad
She has you by the ba!!s. You cannot let her form of self destruction run your life. You have to find the backbone and tell her that you hope she does nothing to hurt herself but you cannot let her live your life. If you continue to let her do this it will only get worse and you will wind up hating yourself. Believe me, I know.
just leave tell her your going and dont look back if she does any thing call for help and leave as soon as they get there.on no account stay what ever she does.if you want to go go.dont stay even if people say your being horried.you must live your own life.
just ';cut'; her out of your life!!
dude if she says she will cut if u mention braking up its a scam to try and keep ya dont let her cutting excuse be on ur conscience u build up ur strength and let her know how u feel for all u know she mite not have noticed the speed she was going at u cannot ruin ur life for the fear of ruining someone elses it will depress u and lead to more drama some people cut bcos it is a genuine rush or they mite cut bcos it makes them feel better for attention i am afraid to say for those of u who may take offense or for personal reasons or to blackmail u from the sounds of things. consider all ur pros and cuns but darling u still hav to talk to her cos for an 18yr old this is a weight on ur shoulder but dont do it by urself speak to ur friends and even hers u never know they could be on ur side good luck chuck
does ur parents know you're with her? get them to talk to her.
im sure she wont threathen to cut her wrist in front of em. :)
DUMP HER SAY GOODBYE
She'd be a cutter anyway (wasn't she before you?). Let her know where to get help if you know and pray for her diligently, but don't let this be a reason to continue in an unhealthy relationship. You are neither her husband or her parent, and you are much too young to be responsible for her anyway.
Tie her up then tell her.
buy her a knife and tell her that you ve met someone else and tell her she has nt the guts to cut herself and watch and see if she does---make sure you tell her in a public place so everyone else can enjoy the scene
Nothing exciting, she'll soon get bored.
Bore the crap out of her!
Does she actually have pysical evidence on her body to prove she IS a cutter - some women would be sad enough to make a guy stay in a relationship by threatening terrible things like that.
At the end of the day - you cant put your life on hold for this lady = if you're not happy get out - blank out anything she says - chances are its all talk to blackmail you into staying.
If you cant say it to her face - write her a letter - explaining that its too hard to do it in person - be nice and sensitive about it and hopefully she'll understand
people who threaten to cut themselves dont have guts to.. so just leave her! she is crazy...or maybe you could continuously do things that she hates and she'll get bored of you and dump you...that way you have nothing on conscious.
Know this: You are not responsible for her actions. She is manipulating you. Don't let her. Find her some hot-lines where she can get herself some help and bid her adieu.
If she does cut herself when you break up, do not let yourself get sucked back in. She is only using her sickness to control you. She may even show you her new cuts to make you feel bad for leaving her. She is in control of her actions. Not you. And she cannot control your leaving or staying. Anyone who attempts to control their partner is abusive. Yes, control is abuse. She is abusing you each and every time she threatens harm to herself.
You deserve better.
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